Last One on the Blog Train

There are more jewish lesbian rabbis than there are gay men that can be identified as 'circuit boys' or 'muscle mutts' (body buitiful guys that go to these weekend long parties full of sex, drugs, dancing and attempts at gaining more self-esteem.) Again, why do we stress ourselves to fit in with smaller groups of people? Is there a sense of elitism or as gay men are we self-esteem masochists?